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[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Looking for a technique to increase your well-be ing and happiness?  Of course you are.  We all are.

And the happy Chewbacca video that is tearing up the internet reminded me of a technique to easily and quickly improve your over all well-being:  laugh before you sleep.

(In case you have been living in a cave,  the  happy woman from Texas has a really fun video which I promise will make you laugh.)

What are the details?  Simple.  Easy Peasy.  Make sure that the LAST thing you do before sleep is to watch or read something that makes you laugh.

  • Laughing before sleep makes you forget all of the crap going through your mind.
  • That makes you sleep better.

In turn, you wake up better, healthier and happier.  It’s so basic, and so easy, it seems to be too good to be true.  But it isn’t.  It works.

Want to be happier at work?  At home?  In general?  Put yourself in the right frame of mind for sleep by laughing before you lose consciousness.

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But if you don’t like that method, try reading a few pages of a comic book.  I love the comic ZITS, which reminds me of my teenage kids.  It makes me laugh.  My wife and I both love the book Awkward Family motivational-keynote-necktiePhotos, which makes us both howl.

Don’t spend too much time… Maybe just three minutes.  But if you laugh before sleep, you’ll benefit.

I promise you!


Brad Montgomery is a business speaker and motivational keynote speaker who helps organizations and business with the PEOPLE side of the equation.  If you believe, like Brad, that the most valuable asset you have is your people, and if you’re ready to get the most out of your people AND those people around them — Give us a call and we’ll strategize a way for this happiness speaker to deliver at your meeting or convention.  Call today at 303.691.0726 or contact us here[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]First of all, this is not about me telling you how great I am, although I’d love to do that.  (Who doesn’t?)  That’s pompous and self-aggrandizing, and not what I’m after here —though you’ll have to hang on to the end of the article to believe me.   So if I seem braggy here, I don’t mean to; just hang on to the end and you’ll see.  You’ll get a nice surprise.  Like ice cream.  Or maybe something less cold.

The subject of today’s lesson:  Motivator, Motivate Thyself.  (Have your ever heard that expression, “Doctor, heal thyself?”  This is like that.)  Or I could also call it, What I Learn From My Audience.  Two great titles; one great blog post.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/4VdS7cqF9dg”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]I was in San Diego recently, giving what, in all modesty, was a kick-ass motivational speech (some days go just better than others–great audience, great room, enough beauty sleep), and afterwards this very nice gentleman from the audience came up to talk to me.  After my business presentations or motivational speeches, frequently people want to connect …and I love it.  I love to hear what they heard.  I love to know what resonated… It often surprises me.

But I digress.  Anyway, this man came up to me and started thanking me and telling me how awesome it was to business speaker Bradhave someone reminding him to stay upbeat, to look for life’s positives instead of the negatives, to get out there and really enjoy what life and living has to offer.  He went on and on;  I’m telling you he positively gushed.  He said I was a great reminder of positivity.  That my stories about staying upbeat generally and especially at work were valuable.  But most of all, he said, he thought I was a great example myself of positivity. Me.  I know.  I thanked him profusely, was very appreciative, very humble, and underneath I was thinking, What a fraud I am!

Because, the truth is, I don’t always see the positives in my life.  I think I’m a bit more positive than the average person..ok, I might even be quite a bit more positive.  But that doesn’t mean I’m always able to stay upbeat.   And lately I’ve struggled being positive with my kids.

So, this man, whose only thought was to compliment me and tell me how great it was that I had reminded him to focus on life’s positives, actually became the motivator.  He reminded me that we all need reminders.  He was, after all, my reminder.  So that minute I resolved to be a better father, a better friend, a better leader.

What’s my point?  Staying positive is important.  It’s valuable. And it’s difficult.  REALLY difficult.  Therefore we ALL need constant reminders of the how-to’s, the importance, and the necessity of staying positive.

What’s that mean?  It means this:  what are YOU doing to stay positive.  I can tell you what I’m doing:

• Listening to motivational speakers.  (I’m gonna listen to my own recording… No..that’s just wrong.)

• Listen to upbeat comedians.

• Read positive books.  Watch positive TV.

So, this week, thanks to my generous audience member, I’m focusing on motivating myself:  finding the positive, acknowledging the good, being grateful for this wonderful life I have.  In other words, motivating myself.

If you need a motivational speaker who speaks to the people side of business, call me, Brad Montgomery.  I’ll be busy motivating myself — it’s a constant struggle.  (It is for ALL of us.)[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Brad Montgomery is a business and motivational speaker who speaks to leaders, sales teams, and organizations of all types hoping to get the most out of their people.  He helps them to restart their passion, their purpose, and their desire to be their best.  Want more from your team?  Contact us for more info about bringing Brad in to your meeting or conference.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

Looking for a way to increase you happiness?  A PROVEN method to improve your quality of life?  Easy peasy: make somebody ELSE happy.  Encourage them.  Congratulate them.  Motivate them.   It will make them happy, but the really cool thing is that it makes YOU happier.

This is the same science that makes the “pay the toll for the person behind you” concept, or buy a coffee for a stranger concept.  Oddly, science proves that investing in somebody else makes us feel better.

It’s ironic;  there is a selfish component helping others.  It’s a concept called Selfish Selflessness.  There is a very selfish component to giving, charity, and acting to improve others.  Helping others helps us to be happier.

Want to prove it to yourself?  Sure you do.  If you don’t believe me, wait until you’re having a crappy day.  Then do something generous for somebody else.  Give out a well deserved (but rarely given) compliment.  Buy somebody a gift when they don’t expect it.  Help somebody with a chore when they’d least expect it.  Cover for an office mate and send them home early to be with their kids.  Do anything.

Heck… Instead of thinking about it.  Do it now.  Here’s how.  Get out your cell phone change speakerand text somebody something nice.  Now.  Do it.

Still reading?  Then maybe you need some ideas about what to text.  Pick one of these or be inspired:

(You can cut-and-paste.  I won’t tell anybody and it still will make you feel happier.)

To somebody at work.  Your assistant.  You’re partner.  The new hire.

• “Thanks for holding things together as I work on this other project.  I appreciate you and you are aweseome!”

• “The work you did on that project yesterday was right on.  Thanks for making our organization better.  I appreciate you.”

•  “Thanks for saying “yes” when I offered you the job.  You’re everything we hoped for in an employee and more.  Thanks for the good work.”

Or to your kids:

• “You’ve been working hard at school this year and I wanted you let you know I’m proud of you.”

• “Last night’s band concert was great.  I’m so proud of you for sticking with the trombone for all of these years.  I couldn’t be more proud.”

* Or just keep it simple:    “I’m proud of you.  I probably don’t tell you enough; but I think it all the time.  I’m so lucky to be your dad.”  (Or mom.)

Or your partner:

• “I love you.  Thanks for grocery shopping yesterday.  It made my day when you surprised me with having that chore done. You’re awesome.”

•  “Thanks for taking care of the kids yesterday.  I didn’t feel great but you were awesome.  I appreciate you.  I love you.”

That’s it.  Get it?  It’s not hard.  Just the act of sending the text or the email will make your day better — and you happier.   Encouragement is good for others.  It makes you a better leader.  But it is also a bit selfish in that it will make YOU happier.

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Brad Montgomery is a business speaker and motivational speaker.  He inspires people to get the most out themselves and those people around them.  Give us a call or contact us here and we’ll talk about energizing your convention or meeting and your people.  Let’s give them the passion to be their best.

Here’s a specific happiness technique you can incorporate today:

Have as few expectations about the future as possible. 

The problem with having expectations about our future is that they often undermine success.

 

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To oversimplify things, we have two expectations about the future.  Either it’s some level of fear, e.g.  “I’m anxious about this,”  or  “I’m worried about the upcoming event,” or we have over-blown optimistic expectations, (“This year’s vacation will be the best ever!” or  “When I get the raise I’ll be incredibly happy.”)   The crazy thing is that both styles of expectations are unhelpful to us.

Clearly, having fear (or even mild concerns) about the future sets up up poorly.  (And the worrying doesn’t help either.)  But having super positive expectations is problematic too.  Rarely are our super positive expectations met — hello dissappointment.

Example 1: High School Prom

Let’s talk about specifics.  Let’s talk Prom.  Every movie about High School has a perfect prom.  The decorations, the music, the friendship, the tender slow dance and that awesome kiss with the right person at the perfect time with the EPIC soundtrack.  So when our non-Hollywood kids head to prom, the expectations are high.  They’ve planned, spent more money than they have (“Thanks Dad!”), and staged elaborate photo shoots. They are pumped!


She expected nothing other than “It’s gonna be fun.”  What a great approach.


 

But realistically how do these real prom experiences work out?  Usually there is friend drama, many of the kids are on first dates with kids they barely know, often the awkward dates turn out to be duds, the fancy dinner is tepid, the conversation stalls, and the dance itself — featuring music that only the DJ likes — is missing everything that made the movie-version so magical.  Oh, and that emotionally charged first kiss?  Ick.  Not with this kid.   Bottom line:  real prom falls somewhere between  “It was ok” and a total bust.  No magic.  No violins.  No big deal.  It’s time to return thefootloose_dance tux.

Real prom is a disappointment. 

Why?

It’s impossible for real proms to meet our crazy, pop-culture-fueled expectations.  (In other words, nothing is as good as the barn dance in Footloose!”)

What If We Could Stage a Prom with No Expectations?

Recently, my family had the pleasure of hosting an Argentinian exchange student.  She is charming for a million reasons, one of which is that she has so few expectations of what to expect from American culture.

Abi went to prom with her American girlfriends.  (In other words, no awkward first-dates.)  She got dressed up, and was excited, but didn’t know much about what to expect.  Just that it was going to be fun.expectations

She had a blast  — Everything was new and surprising to her, and she was delighted. Getting dressed up?  Fun! Dinner?  Fun!  A ride in a limo with her buddies?  Awesome!  The dance itself?  Fantastic!

What struck me most about her experience was the complete contrast between her and all the Americans kids.  She expected nothing other than “It’s gonna be fun.”  What a great approach.

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So what does this mean for you?

Want to be stressed less?  Want to focus on where you are? (As opposed to thinking about where you should be, or where you have gone?)  Want to be happier?

Do your best to lower and simplify your expectations to “It’s gonna be fun.”  Not epic.  Not horrible.  No details.  Just fun.

Yup, you can plan.  Yes, you can even rent the limo.  (I’d take Uber.)  But in the end it’s best to admit that you really don’t know what “it” will be like and embrace it.

Imagine the the opposite and purposely raising expectations.   Imagine creating:

  • The best meeting in the history of meetings.
  • The greatest day of your life
  • The most satisfying holiday ever!

Or…

  • This meeting is going to be horrible
  • I hate holidays so the next two weeks will be really horrible
  • I know this “outing” will be miserable. I just know it.

Those are some pretty heavy expectations.  They ain’t gonna help.  Instead … Give yourself the gift of NO expectations.  Your chances of meeting those expectations are 100%.

 

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Leave us a comment below.  How do you manage YOUR expectations?  Can you give us an example of how too many expectations handicapped you?

 

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]We just had one of our banking clients send us a bit of video from 5 or 6 years ago.  I was doing an all-staff meeting for a bank to help them with their transition to more of a sales culture (something many of my banking and credit union clients are struggling with.)

Check out the clip.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/vSyzjBySE2U”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]It turns out that our thoughts and actions — our attitude — are more powerful than our “life circumstances” when it comes to shaping our happiness.

I see this as great news.  We are not at the mercy of our customers or members for happiness.  Or our boss.  Or our manager.  Or the weather.  Or even our health.

In the end we have a HUGE impact on weather or not we are happy.

[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]If you or your team need a reminder on HOW to be happy at work, give us a call at 303.691.0726   We can get started today.

 

Brad Montgomery is a business motivational speaker who speaks at meetings and conference around the world and across the USA.  One of his most popular topics is helping people harness the business value of happiness by utilizing simple techniques to improve our happiness in the workplace starting NOW.  Call today for a free consultation.  [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Not a great picture, but this is a recent picture of me on the indoor field.

There is a term called Flow which positive psychologists have more or less defined as that state of mind where you are completely engaged and thinking about nothing else. You know, that feeling you have when you are totally immersed in an activity that a parade could march by and you wouldn’t notice it. Flow is important because it’s one of the components to happiness & well-being.

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My team in Mexico

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It’s amazing this team puts up with me.

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An outdoor league while living in Mexico. I’m the gringo on the sidelines.

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Flow is important; and so too is our own searches for finding activities that put us in a state of flow.

I experience flow when I am playing soccer. When I am playing soccer I am thinking about a lot of things: about how out of breath I am, about how that other guy is faster than me, about how the ball is coming right at me and I need to get my foot over to it in time, and how I need to look to my left because my teammate is open but he’ll only be open for a second.

What I am not thinking about is my email, my family, my health, my problems, my business, my income, or anything at all. It’s all soccer. I am in flow. And for me it’s heaven.

So what’s this got to do with you?  I found an activity that brings me to a state of flow; and now that I’m aware that soccer makes me happy I can work to play more soccer.  Easy, right?

Your Homework: think about what activity or activities bring you to a state of complete engagement. Think hard. See if you can find more than one. Now…do those activities more.  Also easy…or at least simple.

It will make you happier. Guaranteed.

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And any of you who have seen me as a motivational speaker know that happier people are more productive and more successful than our unhappy counterparts.

If you’re looking for a business speaker who is not only very funny but can bring specific tactics about how to be funnier in life and at work to your organization please give us a call. I might even bring a woman named Flo. Get in the Flow, Flo!

 

Brad Montgomery
Motivational speaker, soccer player, lover of Flo (Flow?)

I just got the nicest comment back from one of my very recent clients. Farm Bureau Financial ServicesAny of you who have been following me know that I feel very strongly about the power of happiness to improve and increase our bottom lines. But happiness is a devilish thing to measure when it comes to connecting it to anything financial.

But check out this amazing quote from my friend and client Larry at Farm Bureau Financial.

How cool is that!?

“I attribute Brad’s humorous keynote was the ignition point for our 2012 fourth quarter turn around, and incredible first quarter success this year.  We are green on all goals, and still laughing.  Don’t mistake his program for fluff.  He was side-splitting funny; But way more importantly he helped us EXCEED our difficult financial goals.  You can’t afford not to work with Brad”

—  Larry Riley, Farm Bureau Financial Services, Kansas

If you are looking for a motivational speaker who can speak to happiness and how it Farm-bureau-201275improves your bottom line give us a call. And if, like Larry, you are interested in knocking your financials out of the park. Give us a call quickly.

 

Looking for a motivational speaker for your event? Contact me here.

Yours,
Brad Montgomery, Motivational Speaker, Kansas Speaker, Happiness -and-your-bottom-line Speaker

Looking to hire a motivational speaker?  Check for references.  Check for a LONG list of happy clients.  Very happy clients.  And don’t be afraid to challenge them on how recent their references are…. we’ve all seen folks with references that are a decade old.  What has your business speaker done recently?

I’ve been working a ton.  Here’s some footage of my recent clients in Minnesota.

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Looking for a motivational speaker for your event? Contact me here. Doees YOUR group need a happiness speaker who can help them be happy at work? You’ve found him!

I recently did some work with a wonderful government audience in California.  They had me do my all day happiness at work seminar called Laugh-O-Nomics™.  We did everything from motivation, to collaboration, to team building and facilitation.  I was there a full day, but it felt like about 90 minutes … It was fun.

Check out this testimonial.

 

Looking for a happiness motivational speaker for your event? Contact me here.

Yours,
Brad Montgomery
Team Building Speaker, Humorist, Seminar Leader

For you folks who prefer to read, here’s the transcript to the video:

Sandia National Labs Testimonials

So to anybody that might be looking for a motivational speaker to come out to your event we would highly recommend Brad. He did a fantastic job and I feel like we all left with the feeling that happiness is an attitude and that you choose happiness and I would highly recommend him for any job that you might have.

Brad is a Funny Motivational Speaker

Brad was not only funny and entertaining, he had strong motivational skills. He made sure to speak to people asking what they wanted, what their organization was about, what was important to them. He also turned around and was very interactive with the crowd. Was he dirty? No, he really tried to stay away from that even though he wanted to. He wanted to ****. No, kidding, kidding. He actually paid strong attention to what we needed as an organization.

I think he really helped us understand that we have the choice of whether we want to be happy or not and we need to really focus on taking that happiness with us at home and at work and that it’s possible to actually enjoy your job and be happy at work.

So, it was an event that we were hosting to hopefully boost the morale and reinvigorate our group of professionals to get them re-motivated and enthusiastic about their jobs. There was a lot of laughter, everybody was having a good time; got a lot of positive feedback. People seemed to be really enjoying themselves and also had them thinking and so Brad, one of the things that Brad helped with was we had to create the balloon animals, where the, or the balloon statue, where we all had to interact with each other and work together to create something within a matter of a few minutes and it worked out really well. As a team, it promoted teamwork and there was a lot of laughter. Everybody was having a good time. It was really engaging. I think that was one of the best parts about it, other than the things we will take home with us.

We’re pumped.  My new preview is out.  Give it a look! If you’re looking for a funny motivational speaker for YOUR event or meeting, we hope this pushes you over the top.

 

What do you think? Leave a comment below!

Brad Montgomery
Owner of New Video, Happiness Expert, Motivational Speaker

Looking for a motivational speaker (who speaks on happiness) for your event? Contact me here.