I previously thought the world’s worst audience for a motivational speaker would be aMotivational Speakerwebinar, or radio show, or maybe a podcast, because there’s absolutely no way to see how the audience is receiving your message. I’ve done several webinars and radio shows, and it really throws my rhythm because I don’t have that instantaneous feedback that an audience provides an speaker.

When the audience is “out there” in the info-verse somewhere, it’s impossible to make the connection that every speaker needs to have with his or her audience. With an invisible audience there’s no way to know if you’re going too fast, if they’re smiling or laughing at your jokes, or if they’re just plain confused.

But while working in Kuwait with a few other international motivational speakers (and a few business, I heard a story that blew me away and made me realize I have yet to experience the worst possible audience. One of the other speakers presenting for the Kuwait Petroleum Corp was a executive coach and an “women’s empowerment” specialist.

She had what HAS to be the most difficult audience ever. She told me about a difficult motivational speaker audiencepresentation she made to a group of high powered corporate women for an oil company in Abu Dhabi. When she took a look at her audience for the first time, she felt her heart drop. All she saw was a sea of black. The women had come to her presentation in traditional Arab dress: black headscarves, black robes, black veils. Except for a narrow opening for their eyes, every identifiable facial feature was covered: noses, mouths, hair, heads, and she could barely see their eyes. Everyone was uniform, and sat quietly, staring at her, waiting for the presentation to begin.

Can you imagine? She wouldn’t be able to tell these women apart, or get visual cues about whether she was successful in capturing their attention, let alone whether they were even alert or interested. Moreover, in the Arab culture, formality is highly valued. Thus, Arab audiences do not show any strong reactions, no matter how interesting or informative a speaker may be. So for Mary, this was a nightmare: everyone dressed the same, no visual cues, no positive body language, added to a cultural divide of formality and lack of response. Everything she said was met with silence no matter how alarming, funny or interesting. She felt like she was speaking to an empty room.

It wasn’t anybody’s fault; it was just a fact. My fellow business speaker as not going to get any visual or audio feedback.


I’ve had some amazingly poor audiences: Like the drunk college kids in Colorado, where pizzas were ordered and delivered to someone in the audience. In Las Vegas I worked for arrogant, pompous sales people at a required sales conference. They were unhappy, hungover, and in sunglasses so they could sleep. During my talk, they covered their faces with their USA Todays and snored. At yet another fun-filled event, the company CEO was annoyed that I’d even been hired (I had been booked by a meeting planner, and the CEO was unaware I was coming), so he did his utmost to sabotage my performance, before, during and after, making nasty comments about what I’d had to say.

But now after talking with my new friend about audiences in the Middle East, I realize that Speaker audienceeven nasty comments are better than no comments, are better than no reaction. Getting boo-ed off the stage at least might have some future laugh value: I could tell a funny story about it. Someday.

But getting nothing but silence, without even the benefit of body language or facial expression, well, that sounds terrifying and humbling. As bad as some of my experiences have been, my new friend won the prize.

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4 replies
  1. Linda Larsen
    Linda Larsen says:

    Oh wow, Brad. Yes, yes, yes. Thank you so much for sharing an experience that all professional speakers have had at one time or another (although this particular one is beyond anything I ever even imagined). What I really appreciate is that if YOU, as talented, brilliant, funny and creative as you are, tell me that YOU have those kinds of audiences – then you just lifted a huge burden off my shoulders. I’ve had a couple of those and they still haunt me. Could I have done something different? Was it me? But after reading this post, I realize that when I have been asked to speak at 9:00 p.m., after dinner – I cannot possibly engage an audience of 400 people, who have been sitting on a beach in Mexico since noon, getting hideously sunburned, drinking rum punches – and who SO do not want to be listening to me. Oh lord. It was torture. Oh, and did I mention they were all dressed in costumes of their favorite movie characters? Drunk movie characters. I never spoke so fast in all my life. A 1 hour presentation (Oh yes, they wanted me to speak for one hour) turned into 20 minutes. Ba da bing ba da boom. I was outta there. Thanks again, Brad. I’m going to share this blogpost.

  2. Brad Montgomery
    Brad Montgomery says:

    Linda…I meant to mention: I’ve done that mexico thing too. I think the say, “I want a motivational speaker.” But what they often mean is, “We need to show that this is not a junket so if we get audited by the IRS we can point to people like you. ” I wish they were able to be honest and then we could be part of the solution… providing value to people we know are drunk and sunburned is tough, but not as tough as doing it when we are surprised.

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