[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Looking for a technique to increase your well-be ing and happiness?  Of course you are.  We all are.

And the happy Chewbacca video that is tearing up the internet reminded me of a technique to easily and quickly improve your over all well-being:  laugh before you sleep.

(In case you have been living in a cave,  the  happy woman from Texas has a really fun video which I promise will make you laugh.)

What are the details?  Simple.  Easy Peasy.  Make sure that the LAST thing you do before sleep is to watch or read something that makes you laugh.

  • Laughing before sleep makes you forget all of the crap going through your mind.
  • That makes you sleep better.

In turn, you wake up better, healthier and happier.  It’s so basic, and so easy, it seems to be too good to be true.  But it isn’t.  It works.

Want to be happier at work?  At home?  In general?  Put yourself in the right frame of mind for sleep by laughing before you lose consciousness.

[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/41YQ77aop6Y”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]I’ll tell ya what works for me:  Watching the Happy Chewbacca video.

But if you don’t like that method, try reading a few pages of a comic book.  I love the comic ZITS, which reminds me of my teenage kids.  It makes me laugh.  My wife and I both love the book Awkward Family motivational-keynote-necktiePhotos, which makes us both howl.

Don’t spend too much time… Maybe just three minutes.  But if you laugh before sleep, you’ll benefit.

I promise you!


Brad Montgomery is a business speaker and motivational keynote speaker who helps organizations and business with the PEOPLE side of the equation.  If you believe, like Brad, that the most valuable asset you have is your people, and if you’re ready to get the most out of your people AND those people around them — Give us a call and we’ll strategize a way for this happiness speaker to deliver at your meeting or convention.  Call today at 303.691.0726 or contact us here[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]First of all, this is not about me telling you how great I am, although I’d love to do that.  (Who doesn’t?)  That’s pompous and self-aggrandizing, and not what I’m after here —though you’ll have to hang on to the end of the article to believe me.   So if I seem braggy here, I don’t mean to; just hang on to the end and you’ll see.  You’ll get a nice surprise.  Like ice cream.  Or maybe something less cold.

The subject of today’s lesson:  Motivator, Motivate Thyself.  (Have your ever heard that expression, “Doctor, heal thyself?”  This is like that.)  Or I could also call it, What I Learn From My Audience.  Two great titles; one great blog post.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/4VdS7cqF9dg”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]I was in San Diego recently, giving what, in all modesty, was a kick-ass motivational speech (some days go just better than others–great audience, great room, enough beauty sleep), and afterwards this very nice gentleman from the audience came up to talk to me.  After my business presentations or motivational speeches, frequently people want to connect …and I love it.  I love to hear what they heard.  I love to know what resonated… It often surprises me.

But I digress.  Anyway, this man came up to me and started thanking me and telling me how awesome it was to business speaker Bradhave someone reminding him to stay upbeat, to look for life’s positives instead of the negatives, to get out there and really enjoy what life and living has to offer.  He went on and on;  I’m telling you he positively gushed.  He said I was a great reminder of positivity.  That my stories about staying upbeat generally and especially at work were valuable.  But most of all, he said, he thought I was a great example myself of positivity. Me.  I know.  I thanked him profusely, was very appreciative, very humble, and underneath I was thinking, What a fraud I am!

Because, the truth is, I don’t always see the positives in my life.  I think I’m a bit more positive than the average person..ok, I might even be quite a bit more positive.  But that doesn’t mean I’m always able to stay upbeat.   And lately I’ve struggled being positive with my kids.

So, this man, whose only thought was to compliment me and tell me how great it was that I had reminded him to focus on life’s positives, actually became the motivator.  He reminded me that we all need reminders.  He was, after all, my reminder.  So that minute I resolved to be a better father, a better friend, a better leader.

What’s my point?  Staying positive is important.  It’s valuable. And it’s difficult.  REALLY difficult.  Therefore we ALL need constant reminders of the how-to’s, the importance, and the necessity of staying positive.

What’s that mean?  It means this:  what are YOU doing to stay positive.  I can tell you what I’m doing:

• Listening to motivational speakers.  (I’m gonna listen to my own recording… No..that’s just wrong.)

• Listen to upbeat comedians.

• Read positive books.  Watch positive TV.

So, this week, thanks to my generous audience member, I’m focusing on motivating myself:  finding the positive, acknowledging the good, being grateful for this wonderful life I have.  In other words, motivating myself.

If you need a motivational speaker who speaks to the people side of business, call me, Brad Montgomery.  I’ll be busy motivating myself — it’s a constant struggle.  (It is for ALL of us.)[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Brad Montgomery is a business and motivational speaker who speaks to leaders, sales teams, and organizations of all types hoping to get the most out of their people.  He helps them to restart their passion, their purpose, and their desire to be their best.  Want more from your team?  Contact us for more info about bringing Brad in to your meeting or conference.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

Looking for a way to increase you happiness?  A PROVEN method to improve your quality of life?  Easy peasy: make somebody ELSE happy.  Encourage them.  Congratulate them.  Motivate them.   It will make them happy, but the really cool thing is that it makes YOU happier.

This is the same science that makes the “pay the toll for the person behind you” concept, or buy a coffee for a stranger concept.  Oddly, science proves that investing in somebody else makes us feel better.

It’s ironic;  there is a selfish component helping others.  It’s a concept called Selfish Selflessness.  There is a very selfish component to giving, charity, and acting to improve others.  Helping others helps us to be happier.

Want to prove it to yourself?  Sure you do.  If you don’t believe me, wait until you’re having a crappy day.  Then do something generous for somebody else.  Give out a well deserved (but rarely given) compliment.  Buy somebody a gift when they don’t expect it.  Help somebody with a chore when they’d least expect it.  Cover for an office mate and send them home early to be with their kids.  Do anything.

Heck… Instead of thinking about it.  Do it now.  Here’s how.  Get out your cell phone change speakerand text somebody something nice.  Now.  Do it.

Still reading?  Then maybe you need some ideas about what to text.  Pick one of these or be inspired:

(You can cut-and-paste.  I won’t tell anybody and it still will make you feel happier.)

To somebody at work.  Your assistant.  You’re partner.  The new hire.

• “Thanks for holding things together as I work on this other project.  I appreciate you and you are aweseome!”

• “The work you did on that project yesterday was right on.  Thanks for making our organization better.  I appreciate you.”

•  “Thanks for saying “yes” when I offered you the job.  You’re everything we hoped for in an employee and more.  Thanks for the good work.”

Or to your kids:

• “You’ve been working hard at school this year and I wanted you let you know I’m proud of you.”

• “Last night’s band concert was great.  I’m so proud of you for sticking with the trombone for all of these years.  I couldn’t be more proud.”

* Or just keep it simple:    “I’m proud of you.  I probably don’t tell you enough; but I think it all the time.  I’m so lucky to be your dad.”  (Or mom.)

Or your partner:

• “I love you.  Thanks for grocery shopping yesterday.  It made my day when you surprised me with having that chore done. You’re awesome.”

•  “Thanks for taking care of the kids yesterday.  I didn’t feel great but you were awesome.  I appreciate you.  I love you.”

That’s it.  Get it?  It’s not hard.  Just the act of sending the text or the email will make your day better — and you happier.   Encouragement is good for others.  It makes you a better leader.  But it is also a bit selfish in that it will make YOU happier.

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Brad Montgomery is a business speaker and motivational speaker.  He inspires people to get the most out themselves and those people around them.  Give us a call or contact us here and we’ll talk about energizing your convention or meeting and your people.  Let’s give them the passion to be their best.

Surprising Lesson From Trump

Drop your phones, keyboards, whatever you use to send nasty-grams.  I AM NOT WRITING A POLITICAL ARTICLE HERE.  I am not endorsing Trump.  I am not not endorsing Trump.

Does Brad Really Know Trump?

Does Brad Really Know Trump?

Today we are talking about leadership — not politics.  (I do have some ideas about Trump too…but you’ll have to ask.)

One of the most interesting things about the Trump campaign is that many of his supporters are willing to overlook (and even deny) his more controversial statements.  They are focused on the man, the personality, the outsider status, the general direction he wants to go; they are not super interested in the details of his message.

Many Trump supporters believe that Trump doesn’t really mean much of the really nasty things he says. When asked if about Trump’s ideas about Muslims, Mexican Walls and women, they say things like, “He doesn’t really mean that.”  And furthermore, they don’t agree with those opinions.  In spite of the fact that Trump has well-documented and REALLY controversial opinions, a large number of his supporters neither agree with the Trump’s ideas nor accept that Trump himself believes them.   Get it?  That’s big news.  They support Trump even though they don’t support his ideas.

Trump supporters say yes he is brash, yes he is loud and yes he is unafraid to say what he thinks, AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT WE LIKE ABOUT HIM.  He wants to make America Great Again, they say.  That’s what we like.  They like him and his BIG ideas;  the specifics of his plan aren’t important.

Your team needs to understand, and, more importantly, FEEL what that purpose is and feel like they are an important part of a team who will fulfill that purpose.  

What does this have to do with leadership, you ask?  Excellent question.  The Trump story has a lot to do with leadership, because it proves an old adage:  People follow people who have a plan.  Okay, maybe that’s not an old adage, but what I mean is that effective leaders, leaders who can actually persuade people to follow have a vision and they communicate clearly what that vision is.  Make America Great Again.  Short, simple, to the point.  Trump supporters like it and that’s enough.  They’ll shake out the nitty gritty later.

Our take away?   Sometimes as leaders we just need a really simple and clear vision & set of values, and that our ideas might be less important than our image.    And second, we need to make sure our teams really understand this vision.

Your team needs to understand, and, more importantly, FEEL what that puLeadershiprpose is and feel like they are an important part of a team who will fulfill that purpose.  They need buy-in.  Your team needs to believe that together they are going somewhere they believe in.  Do they care exactly how they get to that somewhere?  Not really, if you look at the Donald Trump phenomena.  Do they want their leader to have bold ideas communicated in a bold, unapologetic manner?  Yes, that’s what they want.  Your followers will fill in the details later.  As long as they have an understanding and belief in the purpose, the rest is white noise which they can interpret to fit their own world view.

So your job as a leader is to identify your core values, communicate those core values unapologetically and without fear, and make your team feel like they are an important part of the push forward.  Channel your inner Donald Trump.  Find what you believe in.  Share what you believe in.  Live what you believe in.

I’m Brad Montgomery, and if you’re looking for a leadership expert and someone to remind your group of their boundless potential and capacity for success, give me a call.  Together we can get your team to where they want to be.  Brad Montgomery.  Speaking to the People Side of Business.

PS.  Don’t get me wrong. In the end, our ideas do matter. The details DO matter.  And Trump is going to have to prove that he not only has a plan for the details, and that it is a good plan.  But for now, apparently, the Idea of Trump is more important than any of his ideas.  

 


Brad Montgomery is a business speaker who speaks across the country and around the world.  (He’s also a motivational speaker…which is a word he hates.  When we chat we’ll explain.)  to discuss how to bring Brad to fire up your meeting or event.  303.691.0726

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]This is an open letter to organizations who don’t invest time or energy in soft skill training but do invest in hard skill training. Hard skills are specific, teachable abilities that may be required in a given context, such as a software skills, sales techniques, and leadership skills. Soft skills are often associated with a person’s “EQ” or Emotional Intelligence Quotient which is the cluster of personality traits that characterize one’s relationships with other people. These are personality-driven skills like engagement, getting along with others, listening and engaging in small talk.  But my favorite is the ability to connect.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/Poff4XZFc3U” el_width=”80″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]However, though people are more keen in investing in training of hard skills in this modern world of competition, soft skills have a huge — and often hidden — payoff.

Let me lay some mind-blowing statistics on you.  (Via the Harvard Business Journal, 2012.)

  • Happy people are 25% more productive than their unhappy, mopey counterparts.  That’s huge.

 • Happy people sell 37% more than their gloomy counterparts.   37%   (Nope, it’s not a typo.)

Bottom line:  you can’t afford NOT to invest in soft skills.

Next time your organization needs to invest in itself (Hint: that time is ALL of the time) don’t discount investing in training your people how to be better people.  Don’t ignore soft skills;  run towards them.

We tend to think backwards;  When things are good we’ll invest in our people.  When times are tough we better invest in sales training (or some other hard skill.)  It’s often a mistake.  Your people already know HOW to do their jobs well, but something is preventing them from rocking it.  What’s the problem?  Maybe there is an engagement issue.  Maybe there is a culture issue.  Maybe it’s a lack of motivation.  But rarely is it a knowledge gap that can be “fixed” with hard skill training.

Looking for somebody to come in and get your PEOPLE to where they need to be?  Ready for your people to take ownership, get excited again, and be part of the solution.  I’d love to be part of that conversation.  Give us a call at 303.691.0726 or contact us today and we’ll talk about creating an event that helps your organization to make a difference … Starting with the people who run it.

 

 

Brad Montgomery is a motivational speaker and business speaker who helps with the people side of business.  If you’re ready to get your people want to do their best, it’s time to give us a call.  He’s a member of the Speaker Hall of Fame, he’s proven himself with top organizations in government and health care.  And he’s ready to help you starting now.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]